Let’s Go There




I woke up yesterday to news of nine dead in Charleston. Black people dead at the hands of white. Not the other way around. There’s a pattern here, newly visible to some,  a 400-year unbroken chain to others. Just as I was making my way through the South Carolina shooting coverage, news of a second church shooting came in, this one in Tennessee. No casualities, and yet it hit me. I literally had trouble catching my breath.

I’ve wondered when I might deepen the conversation with my Waking Up White audience. At what point do I move beyond talk of diversity, inclusion, and multiculturalism and into something more substantial and revealing? The time is now. And I’m going there. At least by the end of this blog.




See, there’s language that puts into a single story the past week’s range of racial events — from Rachel Dolezal to the South Carolina church shooting. Language that puts into a single story 400 years of unbroken trauma thrust upon people of color at the hands of white people. Language that puts into a single story every non-Anglo ethnicity struggling to be seen as worthy, of women fighting to be treated as equals, of the gender non-conforming coming out of hiding, of the non-hetero campaigning for marriage rights, and of those who believe in no God or a non-Christian god requesting open-mindedness. There is language that gets to all of this. In just two words.




For racial justice educators these two words are essential. To remove them from our lexicon is like taking the chef’s knife away from the chef. Like the knife, these two words cut swiftly to the heart of the matter. These two words comprise the essential tool in the racial justice toolbox.

And yet, too often, we avoid them. At least around white people. Instead we use soft words like diversity, inclusion, and multiculturalism, language invented to keep white people comfortable enough long enough to entertain the idea that maybe the playing field isn’t completely level, and maybe some marginalized people in white-dominated, Christian-dominated, male-dominated, hetero-dominated spaces (where every serious decision is made) might want to be seen or heard or valued.


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I spent 25 years participating in (and sometimes even leading) diversity, inclusion, and multicultural initiatives without even realizing these were antidotes to a disease. The disease itself, and the dreaded language that describes is, was the elephant in the room. Frankly, I wish someone had just given it to me straight. Because while I was being coddled with soft and comfy language, the diversity, inclusion, and multicultural efforts I engaged in sputtered and stagnated.

So, let’s go there.


Lets Go There 


Let’s name it.

White Supremacy. White Supremacy is the disease that creates the problems that diversity, inclusion, and multiculturalism positions, offices, and committees attempt to address.

Are you having a reaction? Do you want to click away from this blog? Am I making you uncomfortable? If so, I get it. Hang in there. I freaked out the first time I heard this language–as it’s meant to be used.

I was at one of my first “diversity” conferences when an older white Unitarian Universalist minister sitting next to me shared with the group a whiteness curriculum he was working on. “We’re working to make visible connections between historical White Supremacy”, he explained (gulp), “and present-day White Supremacy.” (gulp, gulp, gasp)




Full-blown panic overcame me. My mind raced. “Holy shitballs, is he a white supremacist?” “Did I come to the wrong conference?” “Am I in danger?” “Where’s the nearest door?”

In my mind, the term White Supremacy was completely and totally connected to extremist hate groups. I didn’t yet understand it as an organizing principle or a philosophy, which is what it is and how it becomes like the chef’s knife, cutting to the core of what we’re dealing with.

So what does it really mean?

Let’s start with the Oxford Dictionary definition:

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White Supremacy – The belief that white people are superior

to those of all other races, especially the black race,

and should therefore dominate society.


See? It says nothing of hate. It speaks to a perceived natural order of things.




“Hmmm,” I’ll bet you’re thinking, “I still don’t see why you need the term white supremacy. Can’t you use a term like white dominance? Or white superiority? Something less jarring?”

Well, I’ve tried. But here’s the thing: only White Supremacy ties together the whole social order, beyond just white, and puts a bow on it. The term is jam-packed with a laundry list of unspoken values. White Supremacy describes the social order in which one kind of human being is superior to all others. And that human is: white and male and Christian and heterosexual and wealth-oriented and able-bodied and Anglo or at least willing and able to act Anglo. People who can’t fit neatly into these categories and want access to power and privilege will hide their sexuality, Anglicize their names, fake ability (think Franklin D. Roosevelt), play up their wealth, act “male,” and hide their religion. Rewards come to those who were born, or can pass their way into, that perceived “best” group—“best” as defined by White Supremacy.

White Supremacy founded this country. It justified displacing and exterminating millions of indigenous people, for profit. It justified enslaving and trading fellow human beings, for profit. It continues to justify a system in which an elite few populate a hierarchically constructed top and are able to parcel out, or not, resources to the rest of us. It’s 180° away from America’s stated democratic ideals. And it continues to be the organizing principle that constructs American institutions, American hearts and minds, and the American master narrative – that one that tells us America was built by and for white people.


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And get this: beyond who the White Supremacist culture values is what the White Supremacist culture values. In other words, if you can’t look like a high-class, white, Christian, heterosexual, able-bodied dude, at least act like one. Oh, and don’t get in their business. Don’t rock the boat. Show emotional restraint, be on time, be efficient, and act independent. Also, choose data over anecdotes and intellect over instinct. And for God’s sake, understand that you exist in a hierarchy and stay in your damn place. There are all kinds of names for people who act outside of their assigned social boxes: bitch, uppity, pussy, crip, and NOCD among them.


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It’s this White Supremacist, stay-in-your-box, better-than/worse-than, bullying backdrop amidst which racial hatred, homophobia, misogyny, religious intolerance, classism, and other forms of oppression fester. And don’t be fooled–White Supremacy can come in seemingly benign packaging. I’ve always found it easy to point my finger at people I see as “bad” and “mean” and “racist” – yet, to some degree, all of it also lives in me. Images of white, male, Christian, able-bodied, hetero as normal and superior saturated my young life. How could I not have internalized White Supremacist norms? I would be lying to say I’m anything other than a recovering White Supremacist.

How about you? Can you go there? Can you examine how White Supremacy manifests in your school? Your company? Your town? Your mind? Your heart? Can you see it? Feel it? Name it? This is what eradicating racism, I mean White Supremacy, requires. Let’s go there.

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23 thoughts on “Let’s Go There”

  1. Debby,

    I continue to admire your strength and courage in doing your part to help dismantle the racism that so pervades every corner of our current "U.S." society.  It can be such an unpleasant experience to use language that people find so challenging.  However, like you, I believe that we must name things correctly before we are able to do anything about changing them.  I continue to be deeply saddened by the manifestation of white supremacy in this world – and the media only covers the incredibly blatant examples.  There are so many small, daily and insidious moments that support the absolute craziness of the recent events in South Carolina and those over the past few years.  While I feel that the topic of gun control is important, I often find myself wondering how we talk about the racism that provokes someone to use a gun in that manner.  Honestly, I know a lot of people who own and carry guns on a regular basis who would never do something like what happened last week.

    Coincidentally, I was brought to your piece and another one in the Bangor Daily News within a few hours of each other.  Thus, I felt compelled to follow your lead of "just going there" by adding another word to the "language that puts into a single story 400 years of unbroken trauma thrust upon people of color at the hands of white people."  I submit that the word genocide is also worthy of this status.  And I was happy to see an opinion piece in the Bangor Daily News on Friday use this word.  (http://bangordailynews.com/2015/06/18/opinion/contributors/my-fathers-day-request-for-lepage-support-for-wabanaki-families/)

    Thank you for your honesty and openness on such deep-rooted issues.  And thank you for opening the door to further conversation about the language we use and how we face these challenges.  I hope that the conversations about white supremacy continue to include more and more about how the disease of white supremacy has affected the indigenous peoples of this continent.  A starting point for information regarding the northeast is the  Maine Wabanaki-State Child Welfare Truth & Reconciliation Commission (http://www.mainewabanakitrc.org/).

    May you and everyone involved in this work and discussion be well.

    Angie Reed

    • Thank YOU Angie. Genocide, like white supremacy, was an extremely hard word and concept for me to wrap my head around. Perhaps it was extra hard becasue of my attachment to the ancestral pilgrim stories that came down, whitewashed, through my family.

      I’m especially grateful for your observation: “There are so many small, daily and insidious moments that support the absolute craziness of the recent events in South Carolina and those over the past few years.”

      Helping white people see and feel those connections is crucial to dismantling white supremacy. Since I wrote this (just a day ago) I’ve been thinking about the many words we do and don’t use that hold in place white supremacist myths. Hmmmm, perhaps the next blog will be a list of those words with an invitation for people to contribute. Thanks for keeping this conversation going.

      • Yet another article brought me back to this post of yours.  I was thrilled to see that this article (link below) included some quotes from a Penobscot woman.


        The quote from Donna Loring that I found intriguing was the following:

        “We must not take the focus off racism by arguing gun control or the meaning of a flag or the use of the N-word.” Loring said. “And the issue of racism can’t be addressed if we’re talking about these other issues. [They] distract us.”

        It made me think about the combination of your statement regarding moving "into something more substantial and revealing" and my reply about the racism beneath so many of the current-day problems.

        I look forward to another post from you with more language that is used to "hold in place white supremacist myths."  Keep up the great work.  It is reassuring to be reminded that there are other white folks challenging these issues.  It is our responsibility.

        Be well.


  2. MSNBC’s Joy Reid said that any time people on the right want to talk about “healing,” it “always has to come… from African-Americans saying ‘No foul.'”  I loved that Joy brought this forth on the Bill Maher show Friday.  I grew up in NW IN – 60 miles east of Chicago and was born in Gary.  I remember from a very early age the underlying and sometimes not so underlying blame of black people for "ruining things" in the city I grew up in.  The N word was used freely and still is as far as the white supremacy belief by people I grew up with.  What I am so appreciative of is – those words and feelings did not come from my mom and dad, therefore, I do not get what the fear and hatred is about.  I'm white and I grew up with white parents, aunts, uncles, etc. yet I never heard any discussions of "believing we were supreme" over others, period!  

    Thank you Debby for your brilliant writing and work – for "going there!"  I feel it's actually about a herd of elephants in the room and going there is exactly where we must all go.  I've found that until I journey within my own being and realize my own dark corners I certainly cannot "preach" to someone else how to realize and heal their own.  I must be and remain willing to take my own inner safari to come out on the other side ready to embrace all including those who's fear and hatred take them to places most of us do not go.  

    I look forward to more writing, books, discussions and realizations so I can create a personal revolution of loving me; so I can move into a place of loving others regardless of any labels they may have been assigned "out there" because, for me, out there matters not until I can love deep within me – in here.  

    Reva Kussmaul

  3. Hi Debby,

    Thank you for sharing your hard-earned insights and waking up to our "white-gloved" language that layers denial. Telling like it is – and the truth shall set you (read all) free.

    Glad to have held the space with you and others yesterday.



  4. Dear Debby,

    Thanks for “going there” and offering the waking-up-to-white-supremacy challenge to your white audience. As a US citizen living in brown skin, I’ve spent most all of my sixty-something years navigating the societal requirement of making sure white people feel comfortable… whether it’s being around me and others like me, regarding our country’s real history or even what was just said by themselves or another white person… to risk having a white person feel uncomfortable around a person of color is taboo in this country.

    When we don’t keep white people comfortable, then often its hell to pay and can result in compromise of our jobs and earnings, of our professional or community positions, of our societal benefits, of our educational progress or even the compromise of our very life, our safety or the “privilege” to remain un-incarcerated. Keeping the language of white supremacy safe and unintimidating for white people is the norm but the backlash of that continues to injure us all.

    White supremacy is the structure that keeps this all in place. The combination of learned perceptions and behaviors, inaccurate documented historical and current events and the vast hidden pool of positive and uplifting information about who we all really are, has left us  feeling divided, angry, confused, fearful, ashamed or guilty about race.

    For white people especially, there is much to learn to be able to help change the dynamics of life influenced by white supremacy. And for all of us, there is much to do to change ourselves and our country’s legacy of racism.

    During a discussion about race, I was asked by a white friend, “Where is the hope?” And I said, “Hope is in this room.” We are the hope. Hope is with you and me and those we can touch with that hope.  But first, we must uncover our eyes to see what is before us so that we can choose to step into the lighted path, the one that surprises us with its generosity and brilliance of heart and power of human intention. It is the shaking off of confusion and fear that we will appear foolish or inappropriate or ignorant. It is tasting the charity of vulnerability on our tongue and appreciating its bitter sweetness.

    Yes, let’s go there. We have this to do. It is written on the scriptures of our most sacred documents of the United States, the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution. No matter the situations then, there was hope in the room. Nothing can be undone but we can always do one thing more.

    Yes, let’s go there.

    Norma Johnson

  5. Reading your blog from Honduras where white (or as light as you can get) supremacy reigns as well.

    Thanks for jarring me and giving me pause. 


  6. Dear Debby,

    Hi, there,  my so very dear and precious white sisterfriend who you are For Always so, so very much, Debby!!!!!! I just so love this great and insightful, very powerful blog post article of yours, sister!!!!!! Sisterfriend, you just did such a spectacular job here, and you are so on point, right on, and relevant with all of your great points!!!!!! Debby, you are so right-you hit the very stroke of genius when you said that white supremacy can also come in benign packages-this is so true, my friend.  You are just so right when you have said in earlier writings that racism can cloak itself behind pretty and polite words and mannerisms and that just goes to show how right you are when you say that white supremacy can come in benign packages, Debby!!!!!!

    You did such a superbly super and a remarkably astounding job with this powerful and sagacious blog post article, sister!!!!! Debby, I so love how you spoke of the other isms and systems of oppression other people face as well!!!!! Sisterfriend, you have just hit the very stroke of genius with this magnificent blog post article of yours, Debby!!!!!! It is wondrously wonderful people like you, Debby, as the preciously special white anti-racist woman who you are as my dearest friend and sister, who help me to keep my For Always faith and hope alive with my For Always positive optimism!!!!! Thank-you so for being my dearest and darling sisterfriend, and my white anti-racist ally, Debby!!!!!! Thank-you!!!!!!

    Peace & Love To You For Always, Debby, & Very Warmly & Sincerely For Always, my preciously dear white sisterfriend For Always, with Blessings & Even More Blessings To You For Always,

    Your Christian lesbian black sisterfriend For Always in solidarity, Sherry Gordon

  7. Hi Debby,

    I would agree that "White Supremacy" are the key two words. George M. Fredrickson wrote an anti-racist book titled "White Supremacy." I quote form its Introduction: "White supremacy . . . suggests systematic and self-conscious efforts to make race or color a qualification for membership in the civil community." We must emphasize that white supremacy (inequality) and democracy (equality) are incompatible, that white supremicists are necessarily opposed to democracy.

    Barbara Beckwith gave me a copy of your book, which I read and hope many others will read it. It's really good.


    • Thank you John. I don’t know that book. I very much appreciate you adding both book and quote to this posting! 

  8. Debbie, you rock! I've been so dismayed by the lack of openness about the discussion of White Supremacy, White Hegemony, White and nobody but me mindsets in all walks of life. Keep it coming.



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